Two things that I love about this article:
1. His insight that that women talk and men do stuff together. Obviously a huge generalization, but pretty accurate. Women build friendship through conversation (whether its running, having coffee, at the park with kids). Men talk, but find connection in common activities– thus the Restoration Guns, Trucks, and Bad Communication nights (think shirtless men playing a lot of Wii– now stop thinking about it). He concludes that the difficulty of having common activities contributes to the decline of friendship for men (and the reason why they die sooner than women, lovely)
2. This insight: “we have these deeper friendships because we’ve tried to build a life in one place.” There is something to be said for just living life in the same place with the same people. The transience of DC is a huge complaint amongst its local citizens. But transience is a pretty common feature of urban life. You’re not going to change it. This is why the church is so critical. Restoration gives platforms for friendship to flourish (small groups). We are a community that embraces the idea of rootedness (listen to our liturgy). I want to pastor this church for the next 20 years. I want to give my life to a community of people on a mission to love Arlington with the Gospel. Growing old, going to HS graduations of kids I baptized, laboring beside friends, seeing God do stuff…
What speaks to you?
If friendship is the key to happiness, then maybe this is the key to friendship, to be enmeshed — not just tangentially or voyeuristically, but physically — in the lives of others.
How do can our church better nurture friendship?